“The Chair grew out of a few small seeds of light that were born of the hope I found in the dark.” – Emma Gray.
To those who feel or have felt deeply frustrated or disappointed, sad or misunderstood, this book is for you. These feelings can cause a lonely pain, which Gray argues is a blessing in disguise. She suggests ways in which we can digest that pain in a variety of contexts in order to defuse its toxic aspects, leaving a pure vulnerability that, when shared, ties people together.
In this book, Gray addresses how our personality becomes distorted and discusses “the (invisible) chair” we are all conditioned by – the metaphorical load that we carry as a consequence of misfortunes or traumas we have suffered. Though we feel that others can’t see or share the pain that lives deep inside us, it has a scarily strong influence on how we behave. While the essence of who we are, with its characteristic potential for greatness, doesn’t disappear, it can get smothered.
The author explains that she found her essence on the other side of dark moments after having worked through them rather than avoid them, as so many of us tend to do. She believes that we are capable of so much more than we let ourselves accomplish, especially once we realize what incredible rewards can be reaped from “turning on the light and moving towards the door.”